"Everything happens for a reason."


What do you think of this sentence? Do you use it?

Earlier today on FB Messenger, a friend said, “Everything happens for a reason” in response to my note saying that I was sorry the funding had run out for the startup he was working on.

It made me wonder where this notion comes from. Maybe it’s another way of saying “every cloud has a silver lining,” but it’s a stronger statement, and it’s not one I’m sure I can get behind. In fact, my response to him was,

“Does it? I never know what that line means. Like, was Trump elected for a reason? When a kid dies, do they die for a reason? Sometimes things just really suck.”

Would love other opinions on this line and why people use it.


People say it because they don’t want to face up to the fact that 1) things sometimes just suck and 2) life can be unfair. I never use this comment.